Reclaiming Your Gold Star

Starts Saturday, May 13 | In this live 2.5-hour Zoom workshop, you’ll explore your relationship with external praise and learn skills to shift and develop your inner sense of self-worth.


“You get a gold star!”

When you read or hear this phrase, what do you feel?

Most of us learn to cultivate our habits and behaviors in childhood according to the expectations and values of the adults around us. (How many of you recall the charts on home or classroom walls with your name and a space for a gold star sticker awarded by parent or teacher?) And sure, many of those ideas about how to behave may have served us well. But have all of them?

Whether we worked to please our teachers in school or our caretakers at home, if we learned to judge our value by pleasing others, we often face problems as we become adults who try to live our own lives and honor our own internal sense of what is right for us.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. In this mini-workshop, dual-licensed Dynamic Emotional Integration® professional Sherry Olander will help you learn to identify and shift those old ideas to better serve you in your own life today.

What You’ll Learn

  • Your inner rules or “contracts”
  • Where these contracts came from
  • The difference between internal and external shame messages
  • Skills to update the rules you live by now that help you feel a sense of pride and satisfaction with who you are today

Workshop Details

Length: 2.5 hours

Date: Saturday, May 13, 2023 from 10am to 12:30pm Pacific Time

Price: $35

Learning and Interaction Structure: We will meet and engage together using the Zoom video conferencing program. (Please download Zoom here for free if you don’t have it yet.)

Supplies needed: Please bring several pieces of paper; a writing utensil; and colored pencils, pens, or crayons as we will be doing several exercises during the workshop. If you do not have any of the latter, you can still participate but it might not be as much fun!

This course is suitable for: Everyone who wants to reclaim their own gold star!

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: What can this workshop help me with?

A: Because so much of what you feel and do is linked to your sense of self-worth and underlying beliefs, this workshop can help with so many things. Are you wondering how to gain confidence? Are you struggling with how to achieve your goals? Do you long for a better sense of pride and accomplishment? This workshop can help you with all of these and more by showing you ways to identify those underlying beliefs and helping you change and update them to better serve who you are today.

Q: I struggle with self-esteem. Can this workshop help?

A: Yes! Self-esteem is closely connected to our values, and sometimes we’re living by values that no longer (or never did!) serve us. The exercises we will do can help shift this and reconnect you to your authentic values.

Q: How will this workshop help me achieve my goals?

A: When we’re disconnected from our true selves and true values, we often misprioritize how we spend our time. In this workshop, you’ll take a close look within to discover what is most important to your authentic self.

Q: Will this workshop be recorded?

A: No, but we offer the course frequently; let us know if you want to be notified by email when we schedule the next run.

About the Instructor

Sherry Olander

Sherry Olander is double licensed as a Dynamic Emotional Integration® Trainer and Consultant, and she is a lead instructor of the DEI education and licensing program. She is also the creator of the Elemental Balance course and the Emotion Prep for the Holidays mini-workshop.

Sherry is also a lead instructor in the Soul Tending program, and she shares her affinity for elemental balance in many courses here at Empathy Academy.

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