How to work with fear? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about listening to fear. Our questioner writes: Hello! 🙂 I remember that I listened to my fear, but after a while I realized that I probably lost an important opportunity because it was really nothing to fear. Thanks for your question! We … Read more
How do you work with toxic messages? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about shame. Our questioner writes: If someone is carrying a lot of toxic shame internalized from the outside, does this inhibit the rise of authentic appropriate shame responding to the moment? I mean, does the toxic shame take the space … Read more
Do I approach shadow work differently when my hatred arises in response to abuse? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about shadow work. Our questioner writes: Does shadow work have to be approached differently when hatred arises as a response to abuse (or perceived abuse) from a parent – either emotional, psychological, or … Read more
When feeling bittersweet during a celebration, how do I work with that? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about mixed emotions. Our questioner writes: When a celebration time in life is bittersweet (i.e. someone you love isn’t there for whatever reason etc.), is the emotional goal to be present with joy and present … Read more
How should I work with my emotions when I feel numb and defeated? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about working with emotions alongside treating a condition that requires medications. Finding the right dosage and medications can take time and can be a challenge. Always consult a psychiatrist to help you in this … Read more
Can a person be too deadline-oriented? Note: The term “deadline-oriented” refers to a style of working with our anxiety that is supported by the pressure of deadlines. The alternative style, task-oriented, is supported by the satisfaction of doing things ahead of time. These anxiety styles are discussed in the book What Motivates Getting Things Done … Read more
Can you please elaborate on an inflated self-esteem? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about self-esteem. Our questioner writes: Can you please elaborate on an inflated self-esteem and give suggestions on how to help feel a healthier sense of self? I guess it has to do with unacknowledged shaming messages? Thanks for your … Read more
Why do I want to cry a lot, especially when I’m angry? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about crying when angry. Our questioner writes: This might seem like a strange question for a man to ask, but I want to cry a lot, especially when I’m angry. Something will get me steamed, … Read more
How do I deal with feeling other people’s pain? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about a struggle with hyper-empathy. Our questioner writes: For highly empathic people, how do we process the pain we experience when we hear about other people talk about their pains whether it is in a conversation, a play, … Read more
How do I deal with embarrassment? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about embarrassment. Our person writes: How do I work with feeling deeply embarrassed, as in feeling ashamed and concerned that others might judge me? It’s clearly in the fear family, right? But what is embarrassment trying to tell me? A lot … Read more
