Understanding Fear’s Gifts

How to work with fear? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about listening to fear. Our questioner writes: Hello! 🙂 I remember that I listened to my fear, but after a while I realized that I probably lost an important opportunity because it was really nothing to fear. Thanks for your question! We … Read more

Can Shame Be Toxic?

How do you work with toxic messages? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about shame. Our questioner writes: If someone is carrying a lot of toxic shame internalized from the outside, does this inhibit the rise of authentic appropriate shame responding to the moment? I mean, does the toxic shame take the space … Read more

Shadow Work and Abuse

Do I approach shadow work differently when my hatred arises in response to abuse? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about shadow work. Our questioner writes: Does shadow work have to be approached differently when hatred arises as a response to abuse (or perceived abuse) from a parent – either emotional, psychological, or … Read more

Feeling Bittersweet

When feeling bittersweet during a celebration, how do I work with that? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about mixed emotions. Our questioner writes: When a celebration time in life is bittersweet (i.e. someone you love isn’t there for whatever reason etc.), is the emotional goal to be present with joy and present … Read more

Struggling to Work With Emotions

How should I work with my emotions when I feel numb and defeated? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about working with emotions alongside treating a condition that requires medications. Finding the right dosage and medications can take time and can be a challenge. Always consult a psychiatrist to help you in this … Read more

Working With Your Anxiety Style

Can a person be too deadline-oriented? Note: The term “deadline-oriented” refers to a style of working with our anxiety that is supported by the pressure of deadlines. The alternative style, task-oriented, is supported by the satisfaction of doing things ahead of time. These anxiety styles are discussed in the book What Motivates Getting Things Done … Read more

A Healthier Sense of Self

Can you please elaborate on an inflated self-esteem? This month’s Ask a DEI Professional question is about self-esteem. Our questioner writes: Can you please elaborate on an inflated self-esteem and give suggestions on how to help feel a healthier sense of self? I guess it has to do with unacknowledged shaming messages? Thanks for your … Read more